[AKidsRight.Org] Reforming Family Law: Our Goals, Methods & Actions

Submitted by Editor on Sun, 23/05/2004 - 13:15

People and People of Faith,

We have a lot of new people who have been introduced to the group over the past several months. It may be time for a brief reminder of what our Group of Mothers AND Fathers is about:

--- Our Goals, Methods & Actions.

We are an 'action' group with a focus on Federal Civil Rights protections for families. Our goal is to help parents who have lost contact with their children through divorce/separation or the actions of 'social services.' We hope to turn that pain & despair that so many of us have experienced into a positive force for real change!

1. NonViolent Action - needed to cross threshold.

2. Our Goals - recognize and protect our right to be parents.

3. NonViolent Action and an amazing arrest - it does work.

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May 16 2004

1. NonViolent Action - needed to cross threshold.


The key to our success is a non-violent approach based on NonViolent Action. Please follow the link and read about a very positive approach! We are not loud, rude, or vindictive. We treat everyone with kindness and respect -- especially people with whom we disagree (which includes the other parent, lawyers, and other officials in the "system"). http://www.AKidsRight.Org/civil_back.htm

We have held up the ideal that people willing to demonstrate: Faith, Love, and Personal Sacrifice can be the means of effective social change. More specifically, that Parents can promote Family Law reform by demonstrating:

1) Faith in a loving God,

2) Love for their children, former spouses, and other "brothers and sisters", and

3) Willingness to make Personal Sacrifice,

NonViolent Action allows you to demonstrate through "unambiguous physical action" the depth of your Faith and belief in your "cause." It is a positive demonstration of love given at sometimes tremendous personal cost.

2. Our Goals

Our Goal - Many of us talk about the right to be with our kids. But I guess what we are really saying is there ought to be a "significant barrier" the system has to cross before they can interfere with our family life.

We are not looking for MORE laws, but protection. That before the "system" can interfere with you and your children you have:

1) The right to counsel.

2) The right to be presumed innocent and deserving of an equal relationship with your kids.

3) The right to protection of a jury. The "state" needs to prove you were a demonstrated serious and intentional threat to your child.

3. NonViolent Action and an amazing arrest - it does work.


A lot of people write and tell me NonViolent Action doesn't always work. About a year ago that was brought home to me during one of my arrests. After about 40 times I'm getting pretty knowledgeable about arrest procedures, I usually see the same officers and usually they mellow as they get to know me.

Well, Officer X was going to be the exception. He slapped the hand cuffs on hard the first time around and made a point of pushing me in the right direction. The second time round he managed to give me a hard tap in the "balls" as he was frisking my legs. He would always look at me with disdain and would not start a conversation.

Well, the third time was the charm. It was 95 and a sunny, humid day. He and his partner put me in the patrol car with the engine off and the windows rolled up. I sweated like a pig for 10-15 minutes while they talked outside. Now, I didn't say anything, but my thoughts were clear, "Why you stupid A## Holes!" On the way to the jail he called home and told someone he would be late off his shift to look after the kids. Then he asked me if I knew the hassle I was causing and that I was just a selfish human being.

Now, I just said "no," but in my thoughts I added, "you stupid jerk!" We drove for a while, and he made some similar comments. I tried to change the topic by telling him he was lucky to have some kids to go home to. He then responded with, "Well, by that comment I know you don't care about anyone buy yourself. You protesters just don't care." I didn't say a thing, but my thoughts were, "buddy, why don't you just go F#ck yourself."

By this time I thought, "this guy is a lost cause. All the NonViolent action on earth wouldn't get through to this blockhead." We got to the jail, his partner left, and he and I were alone waiting to be admitted. He then walks up to me and says,"I want to apologize for what happened on the way over here ... it's been long day and these guys in booking are so slow, I'm always late getting out of here... That is no excuse for me giving you a hard time."

Man! My jaw just about hit the floor. All I did was nod my head and we got to talking about the force, the job, and retirement. He asked me if I could do my thing a little bit earlier in the day (I usually walk into the building around 2pm) so it wouldn't be near the end of the shift. I told him I had to take the bus and I tried to get some work done in the morning. But that I would try (and I will) -- next time will be closer to 1PM. He asked me about what I was doing and trying to accomplish. It was a regular talk.

Did I apologize to him for my thoughts, no, it never even came to mind. I was just so shocked. If I would have gone "off" and said what I was thinking. There would have been an entirely different ending. One that would have confirmed my worst suspicions. Imagine that! It was a look in the mirror. -- John Murtari

Best regards!

John Murtari




"A Kid's Right to BOTH parents"

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to John

Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 01/05/2006 - 18:26.

and where has this form of protest got you?



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